A little about Tim…

I grew up with an alcoholic father and a highly anxious, codependent mother. I learned that being a nice boy, never disagreeing with anyone, and getting people to like me was the way to stay safe, and the purpose of my life. I learned that things like anger and discontent were never to be expressed in any way. I thought that people pleasing and loneliness were just how life was.

I started my recovery at age 42 after finding the 12 step program Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families, and a Christian therapist I connected with. I started to sort out the constant fear, struggles with relationships, disconnection from my emotions, low self-esteem, and suppressed rage that were such a pervasive part of my life I didn’t even recognize them as problems.

I learned to say “no” and communicate to people who I actually was. I learned to ask for what I needed, and to ever so slowly believe in myself. I started sorting out my relationship with God. My life changed so drastically that I chose to go back to school and become a therapist, so I could help others who have experienced the hell of emotional suppression and self loathing. Guiding people to find purpose, and begin to live the way they want to, instead of the way they “should” or are “supposed to,” has become one of my greatest joys in life.